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Keeping your cool when working in ECEC

Have you ever felt like you’ve wanted to throw your hands in the air, stamp your feet or just scream out loud when you’re working with children?  Working with children in early childhood education and care (ECEC) settings can be a demanding and challenging role.

Are you ready to regain your mind’s power and help manage intense feelings?

It’s impossible to completely remove stress from your day – particularly in the unpredictable world of ECEC. It is possible, however, to minimise the impact of stressors on your well-being. Creating a low-stress environment hinges on the five preliminary concepts:

1.       Children do not initially or intentionally set out to cause you grief.  Know this. Believe this. Don’t take their behaviour personally.

2.       There is always a reason why children are acting out – all behaviour, positive or negative, is communication  Find out the “why” behind the behaviour.

3.       Build relationships with all of the children in the group. When children have deep and connected relationships with their educators, they are more likely to respond to requests and to come to their educators for support in organising their feelings. How can you encourage everyone to work together?

4.       Children are learning all about the world and how to manage their emotions.  One of your roles is to help them understand and support their emotions. Understanding children’s emotional development can support educators to have more calm and compassionate responses.

5.       Have a conversation with your co-educator/s (if applicable) about how to handle stressful moments in your working environment.  Some strategies may include simply saying, ‘I need a break’ or “I’m feeling really frustrated right now’. Collaborate on the next step so that it is done with the safety of the children in mind and for the wellbeing of yourself.

Once you have the preliminary concepts in place, consider these physical ideas to help you calm down:


1.       During the really stressful moments, stop what you are doing and take conscious breaths. Use the exhalation as a release. This will help to activate your parasympathetic nervous system so you come into a more balanced state.

2.       Create a go-to mantra to repeat quietly to yourself when you are faced with challenges. You could try phrases like ‘everything will be ok’ or ‘I am calm’ or ‘Just breathe’ or ‘It’s not their fault’.

3.       If it is safe to do so, and the children are supervised, go outside for a few moments to breathe in fresh air. Most rooms adjoin a yard, so if this is accessible to you, step out and take five deep, purposeful breaths, ensuring you breathe out long on the exhale.  Bring your full attention to the breath to give you a moment to refocus your attention.   Notice the temperature of the air outside. What sounds can you hear? What do you see? This technique is called grounding and can be a useful tool for children.

4.       Create a yoga space in your room by laying out a couple of yoga mats and placing pictures of yoga poses on the wall in a quiet space or corner of the room. This space can be used by you and the children!  When you are feeling any negative emotions, move it onto the mat.
Yoga has many known benefits to help reduce stress, so take advantage of moving it out on the mat. You’ll be a wonderful role model for the children, and the reason you are doing the yoga could be used as a teachable moment to manage your feelings.

5.       Incorporate a mindfulness program in your room. This could involve acknowledgement, conversations, understanding and education, as well as mindful activities.


The role of the environment

Creativity in how the environment is planned can be a positive step in integrating educator and child well-being. Environments that create a sense of calm and controlled emotions support educators and children.

When educators can use tools in their environment – such as a designated calm space, a yoga mat, or moving outside – they are not only receiving the benefit of becoming calm, but they are also modelling to the children how to regulate their emotions.

Incorporating these pockets of well-being into our rooms, with mindfulness areas and yoga corners, is a perfect way to access tools anytime you or the children need it. Have you ever put music on to lift your spirits or create a sense of calm? This is an example of making an environmental change to impact well-being.

Imagine redirecting a child who is experiencing heightened emotion to the yoga mat and joining in alongside them! Potentially a much better outcome than some common techniques to “manage behaviour.”  By working on our feelings side by side, we develop a deeper connection to one another, and this is especially true for children working alongside a trusted educator. 

As a next step, picture the environment where you typically work with children. What is one small change you can make in that environment to support the wellbeing for children and yourself?

Embedding Wellbeing

Keeping your cool when times are scary, frustrating, sad or emotional is an embedded practice. The process of becoming more mindful and embedding well-being into the program is one that can happen through collaboration with your team, looking at the aesthetics of your environment (link this to my previous article), setting up well-being areas and using techniques, such as intentional breathing; taking in a long deep breath and exhaling out through the mouth, three times.

Creating stress-free environments requires a holistic approach, with calm and centred educators at the core. To that end, putting ourselves first as educators isn’t selfish, it is quite the opposite! We can only truly care for children if we have the right frame of mind.

We owe it to the children and their families to be the best we can be, and that includes taking responsibility for managing our own stress and learning to keep our cool. 


This article was produced by Nic Russell.  Nic has worked in the sector for 30+ years, is a Yogi and also teaches ECEC at Chisolm. Nic’s website can be found here.